To Have and Not to Hold chronicles author Lorri Benson's decision to place her unborn daughter for adoption. Finding out that you're pregnant is normally the beginning of a mother's journey. It's the start of a joyful adventure and a lifetime of love. But what about those mothers who, whether by circumstance or choice, give up their children for adoption? Lorri Benson's memoir To Have and Not to Hold chronicles her decision to place her unborn daughter for adoption. Years later, Lorri did everything she could to find and connect with her. With accounts from the daughter, birth mother, and adoptive mother, To Have and Not to Hold shows how adoption shapes everyone involved.