We all want to love and be loved unconditionally—unfortunately patterns and past experiences often put us in a position where we need to feel guarded or distant. This distance keeps us from feeling true emotional intimacy with our partners, and all aspects of our relationships suffer as a result. The Seven Secrets of Healthy, Happy Relationships seeks to change that by providing a path by which you can recover from the past, enjoy the present, and fight your fears for the future before they have a chance to take root in your relationships. Ruiz and Amara teach that unconditional love is like a river: when you love someone based on conditions, the river gets dammed and stagnant, but unconditional love flows through all aspects of your relationship and your life. By undamming the river of unconditional love between you and your partner, you will create a strong, caring relationship by learning to: Allow yourself to experience emotional intimacy, even if you’ve been hurt in the past. Heal past hurts and traumas that are holding you back from your current relationship. Be in the present in your relationship, rather than living from the past or in the future.